Of Love

In my life, I was always lazy in love. I let love die, and I hid my feelings under a rigid shield when I should have given them room to show and be seen. I never gave myself permission to go in the flow of life, justifying my actions and inaction by the strangest social rules - a human being is perfect in coming up with excuses. There was a single time when there was room for love in me, when I truly tried my best; and I lost, over misunderstandings, too little communication, and many mixed emotions.

This all being over, my mind and heart having settled, I would like to put in words what I believe to have learned.

Love is the game of life. It is a game no one wants to lose. It is not a fun game. In love, our deepest feelings take place over and over again, and by time, we learn to balance our emotional response, the bond of trust welding our being together with the one of our couple.

Love is a game of understanding and communication. It is about enough but not too much, of the right timing, of surprises - and fun. Fun comes when it wants; it is not the target itself; it finds its time and place when the warm feeling of being together is there again. Love is feeling the other and being different.

Love does not mean two bodies bound together each day and night, each hour to second; true love is freedom. It is freedom to share the difficulties of everyday life, and freedom to go around in our life trusting that when we are back, our love will appear there again. It is common understanding with no pushing on any limits. It is the actual will to still stay together.

Love is not dreams. It is a dream job, dream work, working for a dream. It is balance that comes and goes and is made there again. It is will to stay together in the long run; it is expressing oneself freely and with no intention to do physical harm.

Love with children is love through children, being a child, an elder sibling of trustworthiness. True love with children is growing up to the blossom of humanity.

Love is sharing a feeling, overcoming obstacles without building frontiers. Love is our neighbor - it is us - every day of our life.

(2010-06-12, edited)