Feelings, power, and relationships

An actor builds a feeling on top of a memory of his/her own life or on empathy to a condition of another person. This is what makes it possible to have real feelings in a fictional story - and it can be used in true areas of our life as well.

It is a fact that some people we encounter in our life do use this means to 'copy-paste' a feeling into the situation, trying to gain benefit over us. There are also people who, while we discuss with them, will defend their view on a subject longer than what can be seen rationally possible. These two groups of people will claim that we do not understand them, perhaps making points they know beforehand we will not be able to catch - since the intent is not discussion but a small amount of power. We don't understand but it's not a problem, or it is a problem and the reason for the other person to go out and do whatever they please for a night or two, leaving us sit and wonder what happened.

These means of communicational fighting are older than time, and we have got used to seeing them around. However, if we want to build love and understanding, what we should do is communicate with the willingness to understand, seeing the generation-long history behind these ways of behavior. Although it seems like hard work, deepening the aspects of a relationship is able to pay us back in plenty. Staying open, willing to take a few blows for more understanding, we are able to grow, seeing growth around us as well.

What don't they know to behave like that?